1. Decide how much home you can afford. Generally, you can afford a home equal in value to between two and three times your gross income.
2. Develop a wish list of what you’d like your home to have. Then prioritize the features on your list.
3. Select three or four neighborhoods you’d like to live in. Consider items such as schools, recreational facilities, area expansion plans, and safety.
4. Determine if you have enough saved to cover your down payment and closing costs. Closing costs, including taxes, attorney’s fee, and transfer fees average between 2 percent and 7 percent of the home price.
5. Get your credit in order. Obtain a copy of your credit report.
6. Determine how large a mortgage you can qualify for. Also explore different loans options and decide what’s best for you.
7. Organize all the documentation a lender will need to pre-approve you for a loan.
8. Do research to determine if you qualify for any special mortgage or down payment assistance programs.
9. Calculate the costs of homeownership, including property taxes, insurance, maintenance, and association fees, if applicable.
10. Find an experienced, full-time REALTOR® who can help you through the process.

1. Paying Too Much

This isn’t about over-paying for a particular home. That mistake is tough to make if you will be borrowing to buy. An appraisal will be done, and the lender will probably refuse to lend enough for you to buy an over-priced house.

The common mistake here is following the advice of real estate agents, lenders and even your friends and family, who will often encourage you to buy a more expensive home than you can afford. They may call it an “investment” and claim that real estate always goes up in value, so you should get as much as you can. Of course, recent history shows that home values don’t always go up, and this kind of thinking has a lot of families facing foreclosure now.

Buy what you feel comfortable with. If you can’t easily make the payments, even after a short layoff from work, you may be overextending yourself. And watch out for lenders “solutions” to this problem (see number 2).

2. Trusting Lenders

I am not suggesting that lenders are all out to get you, or that you should look at them suspiciously, but they are not necessarily looking out for your best interest. That’s your job. Their’s is to sell loans. Buying a home normally requires buying a loan too, and as we can see now (2008), many loans are not suitable if you want a secure future. While there are sometimes good reasons for interest-only, adjustable-rate, and zero-down loans, most of the time these should be avoided.

Never mind what a lender recommends or suggests. Ask him only for facts, and do your own math. If the rate on your loan goes from 5% to 10%, what will the payments be? Can you easily afford that? If not, you are taking a risk that may not be justified.

3. Trusting Real Estate Agents

When you are buying a home, the real estate agent who helps you, like the lender, has his own agenda. It isn’t that he or she doesn’t wish you the best, but they wish even more for their own families, so the primary goals is to sell something. Also, unless the agent is explicitly working for you, she has a fiduciary responsibility to work against you if that is what is best for the seller. In other words, if she thinks you will pay more because of a comment you make, she must pass that information on to the home owner.

Even a buyer’s agent can be biased. It is nice to think that they are working for you, but they still only get paid (typically) when a sale is made. That’s a pretty motivation to push you into a home fast, whether or not it’s the best one for you.

Pay attention to whether an agent is really showing you the houses that suit your needs, rather than the ones that he or she would buy. Many real estate agents don’t listen very well, and will show you what they think you want, rather than asking you more questions. They can lead you to buy a house that doesn’t suit your needs or costs more than you want.

One final note about real estate agents: They are not experts on all things. In fact, some are barely an expert on anything. I have met agents who didn’t understand a simple seller-financing offer, and others who suggested that cracks in foundations were “no big deal,” though they knew nothing about construction. Unless an agent has specific experience in an area, take what they say with a grain of salt, and seek out other counsel.

Buying a home that actually is right for you starts with avoiding the three mistakes above.

One of the most common mistakes that many home buyers make is not getting pre-approved or pre-qualified for their mortgage loan in advance of starting their home shopping. As a result, if they put in an offer on a home at the same time that another prospective buyer makes an offer, and that buyer has been pre-qualified, the other buyer will almost always get the house because of having their financial arrangements already in order. So avoid this mistake by arranging for your mortgage loan in advance.

Another common mistake that is made is not enlisting the help of a qualified realtor in the home buying process. Buying a home these days is becoming more and more complex and involved. So having your own realtor who is looking out for your best interests and is knowledgeable about all the real estate requirements for your area can save a lot of headache and hassle.

Sometimes home buyers also rush into buying a home too soon. So its very important to take your time in the buying process, and not allow yourself to feel as if you are under pressure to buy a particular home quickly. New homes go on the market all the time, so be patient and you’ll be able to find a home you want, at the price you want, soon enough.

The opposite of that scenario can also be a big mistake. There are some home buyers who have such stringent requirements for their dream home, that they often pass up excellent homes that are very good bargains simply because their demands are unreasonably high. In a rising market, this can often cost them very dearly in the process. So although you may have very definite ideas about a home you would like to purchase, try to realize that some small compromises are usually necessary when buying a new home.

Sometimes home buyers get carried away emotionally and become attached to a home that is actually out of their price range too, and then saddle themselves with a huge debt that is difficult for them to pay. Most often financial institutions will help try to prevent such a situation, but buying restraint needs to start with the home buyer first. A good practice is never to even look at a home that falls outside of your affordable price range to begin with.

Whenever you are seriously looking at any home, be sure to inspect it thoroughly before you agree to the sale and sign the papers. It’s usually best to hire a quality home inspector on your own to go through the property and give you an unbiased assessment of its condition. If major problems are found, it can save you a lot of money by making this small investment.

One other common mistake that you want to avoid is not being aware of all restrictions that may be placed on your property by local zoning laws or homeowners associations. You may have specific plans for improving your property after the purchase, but you need to make sure that there are no restrictions on the plans that you have in mind before you buy.

These are some of the more common mistakes that homebuyers have made in the past that you can learn from. So before you buy your next home, review this list of tips and ideas to help make your home buying experience a successful one.